SOS: My newborn hates her crib!

Bringing a newborn home is a whirlwind of emotions and adjustments. As a new parent, you’re navigating uncharted territory, trying to decipher your little one’s cues while battling sleep deprivation and the physical (and emotional!) recovery from childbirth. One common challenge many parents face is getting their newborn to settle in their crib or bassinet for sleep. It’s a transition for your baby, from the cozy confines of your womb to the spaciousness of their sleep space. Understanding this transition is crucial in helping your newborn adjust and embrace their crib or bassinet as a comforting sleep environment.

The Comfort of Familiarity

Picture this: not too long ago, your baby was nestled snugly inside you, lulled to sleep by the rhythm of your heartbeat and the gentle swaying of your movements. Now, in their crib or bassinet, it’s a different sensation altogether. It’s not that they hate their sleep space (though it may seem like it); it’s just a new experience for them. Like all of us, babies crave familiarity and comfort, and it takes time, patience, and practice for them to adapt to this new sleeping arrangement.

Tips for Helping Your Newborn Adjust to the Crib

  1. Keep Them Close: Placing the crib or bassinet in your bedroom can work wonders. It’s not only convenient for you but also reassuring for your baby to have you nearby. This closeness provides comfort and security, easing their transition to independent sleep.
  2. Prioritize Safe Sleep: Safety is paramount. Ensure the sleep space is free of any hazards, adhering to safe sleep guidelines. This means no bumpers, pillows, loose blankets, weighted sleep sacks, positioners, nests, etc in the crib.  All you need is a firm, flat crib (or bassinette) mattress and a snug-fitting sheet.
  3. Embrace the Swaddle: Swaddling mimics the snugness of the womb, calming your baby and minimizing the startle reflex (you know, when their arms and legs pop up and they startle themselves awake) that can disrupt their sleep. It’s a comforting embrace that can help them settle more easily in their crib or bassinet.
  4. Warmth and Comfort: Transitioning from your warm embrace to a cool crib can be unsettling for your baby. Warming their mattress with a heating pad (on a low setting and removed before placing them in) can create a more seamless transition, replicating the comforting warmth they’re accustomed to.
  5. Gentle Transitions: If you’re transferring your sleeping baby from your arms to their crib (which is totally ok to do in the newborn stage- but does NOT work well for older babies), wait until they’re in a deep sleep (about 15-10 minutes after falling asleep) to minimize disturbances. Gradually ease them onto their crib, placing them down bum first, maintaining gentle contact with your body and then just your hand, until they settle. You can also try lying them down on their side first, then gently turning them to their back.  Just be sure their head/chain is not tilted backward as you place them down, as this will trigger their startle reflex (it feels like they are falling!).

  1. Explore Vibrations: Some babies find comfort in gentle vibrations. Experiment with placing a vibrating pad under their mattress to see if it helps soothe them into sleep.
  2. Don’t forget the pacifier: Sucking a pacifier can be very helpful when trying to fall asleep in the crib or bassinet.  Give it a try!

Creating the Ideal Environment

  1. Embrace Darkness: Once your baby has established their day-night rhythm, ensure their sleep environment is conducive to rest by keeping the room dark during daytime naps. Darkness signals sleep, helping your baby distinguish between naptime and awake time. If your newborn still struggles with day/night confusion, keep them napping during the day with the shades open so we don’t confuse their still-forming circadian rhythm.
  2. White Noise Magic: Recreate the familiar sounds of the womb with white noise. It provides a soothing backdrop, masking external noises and promoting deeper sleep for your baby. Just keep it at least 3 feed away from your newborn’s head to protect their little ears.

Navigating Wake Windows

Understanding your baby’s wake windows is key. Aim to put them down for naps or bedtime when they’re not overly tired or under-rested. Most newborns can only tolerate 45 minutes to 1.5 hours of wakefulness before needing to sleep again. To find a full chart of wake windows and sleep needs, click here. You can also experiment with the level of wakefulness your baby is at when going into the crib: fully awake, drowsy, almost asleep, asleep, etc.

Practice Makes Progress

If I could emphasize anything to newborn parents, this would be it. Don’t be discouraged if the transition to the crib or bassinet takes time. Start with bedtime and the first nap of the day at first, gradually incorporating more sleep periods as your baby adjusts. It does not need to be an all-or-nothing thing in order to see improvement in crib sleep. Remember, it’s okay to contact nap or use a stroller or carrier for sleep on the go. Just keep in mind that the more you practice, the more familiar and comfortable the crib or bassinet will become for your little one.

Transitioning your newborn to their crib or bassinet is a journey filled with patience, understanding, and love. By creating a nurturing sleep environment, prioritizing safety, and embracing gentle techniques, you can help your baby learn to love their sleep space.

Remember, every baby is unique, so be flexible and attuned to your little one’s needs as you navigate this transition together. If you ever feel overwhelmed or uncertain, don’t hesitate to reach out for help; I offer 1:1 sleep support for newborns! You don’t have to struggle through this season alone. You’re doing an amazing job, and your dedication to nurturing your baby’s sleep is truly commendable.

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